We don’t like to see our children in pain or frustrated. We want them to be happy, and as much as we know a life without frustration is impossible, and not even a good thing, we still try to smooth the way. And if you’re like me, you’re perfectly capable of knowing that fact and still wanting to make things right for your child! The New York Times ran a good piece on emotional agility on October 4, 2016. Its point was that by having children learn to acknowledge what they are feeling, they gain some control. The point is that there will be upsets, and that with help they will pass. The article worth reading and might give you some more vocabulary or at least perspective to pass along, next time there’s a world-ending crisis in the kitchen…
As I have spent more time with the students and teachers, I have been excited to see how much the faculty and administrators have this same sense of calm perspective. The students’ feelings and ideas are acknowledged, even if they don’t match the facts — or what the rest of the class is aiming for — and at the same time, a thoughtful path forward is set out, involving the family as needs be.
And I would imagine that at this point in the year there probably has been a bump in the road, large or small, for your child. Embrace it as best you can, talk it through with your child, and if it is worrying you, or still worrying your child, talk to your child’s advisor or classroom teacher about the next steps. I know they’ll have some good perspective on it. Conferences are coming soon on Tuesday, November 8, but if it’s a pressing problem, don’t wait till then.
You’ll also want to talk about academics at the conference and I’ll be writing about academic frustration next!